Say goodbye “causes” that leave you feel angry, sad or anxious – “glitter” can swing you in the next direction.
DEB DANA, an author and a licensed social clinical employee who specializes in complex trauma, marked the term “Shine” in her book for 2018 “Polyvagal theory in therapy” to describe how small experiences can help relocate the response of our nervous system from protection to calm.
Speaking of the post, she broke how to know them – and what to do when you found one.
What is a glow?
“Glimmers are these small moments of OK-available, joy, excitement, ease, calm, any of those fragrances that give you the feeling that you are sure in the world to feel present and okay,” Dana said .
How do you know if you collided against a glow?
“You may feel that something happens in your body, a warmth or an opening or change of breathing, or your eyes can focus on something. It can bring a slight smile. So there is an embodied response,” said Dana.
The brain follows the costume with its response, admitting that something is beautiful or fun or likes: “It’s a body-trum experience, and they work together.”
What do you do when you notice a shine?
For beginners, Dana says that reflection at the end of the day can help you know the signs that the moments were or could be shiny.
“Once you know the signs, when you feel something alive, stop at that moment and then appreciate it. Evaluation is a ten to twenty -second experience,” Dana explained.
This brevity makes brightness approachable for those who work through complex trauma and anyone who wants to lead a happier, more emotionally regulated life
“People want to feel like they are doing something, and yet they don’t have much energy I DO“Dana noted.
Although short, glitter can have a powerful, cumulative effect, expanding our biological ability to avoid fighting or flight, detachment or closing.
“When we can stay arranged, we can talk to people, connect with people, solve problem, be with everything that causes despair or disunity in the world, and find a way to work with it, than just withdrawn in it, ”Dana said.
Glimmer: Anti-Driving
“We deal with reasons all the time, things that do not irritate people,” Dana said. “We tend to forget that we also need to actively experience regular moments in order to fully live a life of well -being.”
In fact, the glitter works not as a distinction from suffering, but as a resistance building.
“When we find shine, when we can observe them and absorb them, it builds our ability to stay in that biological state of adjustment”
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Teach your brain to feel better
Dana chose the glittering word as she suggests something that attracts attention that is not great.
“The interesting thing about the glows is that they are around us; there is a glow that happens somewhere all the time, and yet we do not know how to ask them, and so we do not notice them, and they pass by,” she said .
“When we start to realize that it’s just the little moment that brings a smile or stops you for a moment, you look and feel something different.”
At first, the glows are a few seconds feeling something different. As you find them more and more, you build practice; See, stop and appreciate.
Dana Dana
Looking for glymers conditions of mind and body to experience similar moments.
“Once you find a glow and think it is enlivened in your body, your brain makes a story about it. It marks, nominates it. Once this happens, you are organically prepared more. So it becomes a easy practice. “
She noted that there is a fair amount of toxic positivity in the clinical world that encourages people to count their blessings and avoid the negative. However, Dana looks at the splendor as a way to face difficulties instead of denying them.
“Glimmers are a way to emanate your ability to see what is difficult and disturbing. It is about building the ability to work with what we do not fix. “
See, stop, appreciate, remember, share
For humans, whose daily experiences include signs of risk, anxiety or chaos, a sense of adjustment and safe can be recorded as unknown, sending a risk suggestion to the nervous system.
“At first, the glitter is a few seconds of feeling something different. As you find them more and more, you build practice; See, stop and appreciate, ”Dana said.
“As we do this, those moments of security and connectivity become popular, so they are not scary. And your system begins to form towards that sense of security and connectivity and reduces the paths of protection. As we build the capacity for safety and Connection, we can travel that road easier and often. “
Dana claims that as we build a great practice, we begin to identify the shiny environments where we are likely to experience them. She has designed “Glimmer Journal” to help people keep track and enjoy their splendors.
She notes that separation is an essential component of the power of brightness.
“The nervous system likes to be about other nerve systems. We people are social beings. We want to be with others. And so after looking, stop, appreciate and remember, the next step is the division. “
Glimmers: Separation is careful
In her work with complex trauma survivors, Dana would have customers to divide their splendors in many ways, including recordings, drawings, photos and lists.
She notes that Glimmer’s friends and groups are beautiful ways to encourage the search and sharing of splendor. “There are all kinds of ways to let the nervous system feel connected and part of an excellent community.”
According to Dana, when you share a shine, you bring it back to your system and offer an opportunity for another person to experience that feeling.
And while the goal with the trauma is to remember how much to restore experience, when it comes to splendor, we must aim for a comprehensive memory.
“That state of feeling that there are regulations and connections, we want to bring it so completely alive that our system can tolerate. Because the more we do it, the more Gently and yet forcibly move our system to a new model. “
For Dana, every moment is an opportunity to form the nervous system and remain open to the positive potential of brightness.
“As we continue to have, share, and remember Glimmers, we know that they are forming our systems to more rules, security and connection. While I am a more regulated man, I am passing it into the world. I am Walking around the world, giving other people signs of security and welcome. but powerful. “
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